4Don’t make your children your messengers
There are many ways for ex-spouses to communicate. Some choose the telephone; others send text or e-mail messages. Still others may continue to communicate through their lawyers. All these messages can work more or less well. Using children as “messengers”, however, does not work.
Today we have access to many tools to make communication and organization easier. 2houses.com is an example. It offers a platform that organizes the practical aspects of co-parenting without clashes.
So, the rules in your home may differ from those in your ex-spouse’s home. That’s normal. If you are at ease with the rules that you set – “That is the way Mum/Dad has chosen to do things. We are going to do things differently here” – then your children will be more likely to accept them, too. Explain that you are doing things for their good because you care for them.
…here’s a solution: 2houses provides an opportunity for clear, full, and changing communication between ex-spouses that is free from all emotional charges, in the strict interest of their children.
Children must always feel that they are supervised by parents who are attentive to and aware of their scholastic and extracurricular activities, health, and so on.
2houses is an extraordinary way to enable parents to continue managing their joint child-rearing responsibilities. It offers precise management of expenses and a customisable parenting schedule that the children may also consult.
2houses helps parents to carry out their parental responsibilities serenely, in the absence of an emotionally charged context. That, in any event is how various family dispute specialists – lawyers, judges, psychologists, and teachers – see it.
Catherine Henry, lawyer and family mediator